Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Under Renovation

It has been a crazy, wonderful week here at Oleo Acres (one of the cheaper spreads)! Since my last post, I have been cleaning, anticipating, excited, frustrated, and elated, then tired. Why? Our DD and 7 month old granddaughter arrived from New Zealand this past Sunday!
At the end of last week, I also bit the bullet and bought a laptop computer. Sitting at the desk for long periods of time was just not working out - my neck and spine were not happy no matter what I sat in or where I moved the computer screen. Something had to change or I had to give up doing anything on a computer. I did quite a bit of research before getting one. Since the DD, aka The Computer Guru, was installing a home server to back up our computer(s) each night and store information, I thought it best to time my purchase with her visit and get my laptop included with the rest of the system. She has been so generous in her help with all of this. So far everything is working well.
I LOVE the laptop. I can sit anywhere I feel comfortable. As I write this I am sitting in my recliner while everyone else is watching TV. My spine and neck are so much more comfortable although I am relearning where the keys are. Thank heavens for Spellchecker.
But enough about the computer...I feel so very blessed having my daughter here. Although we keep in touch almost daily through computers and emails...and Skyping on the weekends so everyone can see each other, I miss having her closer. While we get to see how our granddaughter is growing - the new teeth that have come in or the crawling on the floor - I love seeing my daughter and her wonderful husband as well.
I am a believer in children leaving home and making their own ways in the world, but that independence comes with a price. I love seeing her "fly". I am proud of all her accomplishments. But with that comes a few feelings of being like a rock - grounded here while she soars. It's the way it should be, but that doesn't mean I have to like it all the time. Kelly has grown into a wonderful woman whom I am overjoyed to be friends with. My father used to say that a parent's first duty was to be a parent...to teach your children to be good people. Sometimes that meant being tough, but that's the job. If you ended up being friends at the time the child became an adult, so much the better. When I watch my daughter interact with people and hear what colleagues say about her, I know I both did the best job I could and that we've added the dimension of "friends" to our mother/daughter relationship. Win-win.
Now I get to see Kelly in the parent role. She's a beautiful mother. It shows in the smiles my granddaughter, Gwen, has on her face as she goes through her day, embracing all the universe has to offer. It shows in the patience Kelly has with a cranky child fighting jet lag and time zone changes when she herself is so tired from the very same reasons. It shows in the way she cuddles and kisses her daughter when she thinks no one is watching.

I am also appreciative to my son-in-law...for sharing his family with us. It's very clear that Gwen is a "Daddy's Girl" and misses him, even though she loves her mommy.

And I'll bet he's missing them just as much...


(PS - As soon as I get access to photos again on my computer, I'll be including some photos of The Visit with Kelly & Gwen) :)

4 comments:

Nancy K. said...

How Wonderful! I know that you (and your daughter!) will treasure every moment of your time together. I also have the pleasure of having grown daughters who are now my "best friends" ~ what a GIFT!!!

Michelle at Boulderneigh said...

I don't know if sons grow up to be best friends with their moms, but I hope that I can be as proud of my son as you two are your daughters in another 20 years or so! Can't wait to see pictures; congrats on the laptop!

Tammy said...

Sounds like you have had a lovely time. I'm so happy for you that you got to spend this special time with your daughter and granddaughter. I've thought about a laptop for my next computer in the future, but not sure I like the keyboard.....I'm not great with change..ha...but would love the flexibility.
Tammy

Sharon said...

I love my laptop and without it, wouldn't participate in the online exchange. It has to be fun, right?

I'm going to face your experience very soon. DS has been interviewing for positions and while not across an ocean, they're far from us. I support them in this. As much as I am saddened, they need to move to the best place for their family. I might feel differently in an earlier era, but we have connectivity.